Taking a step towards healing in a relationship is a radical act of courage.
When our most beloved relationships are hurting it is deeply painful. Being disconnected from your partner can be frightening, activating primal questions about belonging, acceptance, and enoughness. Let me help you navigate this time in your life so that you may find your way back to each other.
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A Little Bit About You:
You and or your partner live at the multiple intersections of identities and often feel like you have to choose between those parts of you to feel safe and connected
You are in a partnership that started with promise but you now notice that this relationship is echoing the patterns of previous relationships
You have endured trauma in your life and you find it is hard to know what you want or even what you are feeling, impacting your connection with each other
One or both of you have ADHD and are recognizing you have gotten into a dynamic that does not nourish either of you.
You are parents to kids who are neurodivergent and you find yourself not agreeing on how to parent, creating more disconnection in your relationship with each other.
Our relationships can be under a lot of stress, with the demands of work, family expectations, raising children, and living under oppressive systems that privilege certain identities. If you see your relationship in any of this, it is natural to worry and fear about the future of your relationship with your beloved. I want you to know that there is hope.
Maybe you have hoped time will ease your despair.
Maybe you have sought out the help of family and friends–while they have the best of intentions, they have either offered unhelpful advice or shamed you for the things going wrong in your partnership.
Maybe you have even sought professional help but felt like they just did not understand your cultural values that inform your partnership.
I applaud your resilience and strength in continuing to move towards connection. Let me help you find your way back to each other, find new ways of connecting, by increasing awareness and understanding of self, your partner, and the relationship.
My desire is to help couples find their way back to each other. I want to help you see what you love about the other person, quirks and all. We will dive into your love story and uncover how things went off-script. Together, we will talk about what hurts, where you get stuck as a couple, and explore ways of being in a relationship that offers more support, connection, and love.
I am systemically grounded and view the work of therapy through an attachment and anti-oppressive lens, drawing from various theoretical frameworks when considering the needs of each couple.
With me, you will get someone who is compassionate, warm, direct, and collaborative. I will be attuned to both of you and will also gently challenge you to expand the ways you understand our world. Always, our work together will be something we co-create.
I stand on the shoulders of wise and compassionate healers. My deep gratitude to the following people who have shaped me as a clinician and a human:
Resmaa Menakem, Leticia Nieto, Diana Mena, Tanya Ranchigoda, Katherine Walter, Stacey Prince, Bayo Akomolafe, Akilah Riley Richardson, Paul Gillory, and Agnes Kwong.
My counseling practice acknowledges that we are on the traditional land of the first people of Seattle, the Duwamish People past and present and honor with gratitude the land itself and the Duwamish Tribe.
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Modalities and Fields that Inform my Work:
Anti Racist Scholarship
Emotionally Focused Therapies
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy